Being married for more than thirteen years does not make me an expert to relationship and family. But it is certain that those years made me the better person I am now and I hope that it is the same with my husband. I personally believe that keeping your marriage healthy, sparkling and smooth boils down to open communication and plain understanding. Aside from these two factors, there are other ways to keep you tied up to the man or woman you say "I Do".
According to Merriam- Webster Dictionary, "Marriage is the state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband or wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law". But it is actually more than that. Time, effort, love, affection, acceptance, faithfulness and sincerity goes with marriage.
If you are just starting a wonderful married life and you want to keep it till you are both old, you may want to consider the following ways to keep your happy lives together.
- Put Jesus Christ in the center of your relationship.
- Pray together.
- Be careful with your words when speaking to your spouse. Always choose nice words towards the love of your life. Easy to say, but what if you are angry or mad? Stay away from him or her until you are calm enough rather than confronting each other which might lead you to say words you will regret later.
- Stay sweet and loving. Consider giving gifts once in a while to show your love and appreciation.
- "Me time" is important for each person even if you are already married. Don't chain your spouse to you. He or she needs time time to unwind on his or her own.
- Trust and respect each other. These two things are the basic foundation of faithfulness.
- Love each other with full honestly and never keep record of his or her wrong doings.
As you take your journey to a world of great joy and blessings, remember what the Bible says about LOVE.
1 Corinthians 13New International Version (NIV)13 If I speak in the tongues[a] of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast,[b] but do not have love, I gain nothing.4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.